I've been debating about whether to reply to this thread or not.
I have some points I'd like to make.
1. The fundamental principles.
2. Read the dates.
3. Be what you want it to be.
I'm honestly surprised by this thread because I know that the forum is actually doing great overall at being a much friendlier and more accepting place than it used to be. Like Paula, I need examples. Because, I need to know how we can improve. How can we improve if we don't know where the 'problems' are?
1. The fundamental principles.
Cappuccino posted
... or buy from a petstore, like I did. Before I came to this site, I had no idea about the consequences of buying from pet stores. I got the largest cage available. I got a single guinea pig. I came here, and it was like an explosion of "WOW YOU ARE SO STUPID." I should have bought from a rescue. I should have made my own cage. I should have gotten two. This realization is enough to make us feel bad, and any further reprimanding by other users is not fun. We all joined because we LOVE guinea pigs. We have to respect that all users have the best interests in mind for their own fuzzy friends, and should be treated as such.
So, when I originally read this, I thought that she had posted and was attacked. I searched for and read all of Cappuccino's posts. Everyone was wonderful, nice, cordial and helpful to her. Hmmm. Then, I realized that no, she was talking about other posts apparently.
Here's the thing, this forum is part of a larger site with very clear messaging.
1. Cage MUST be appropriately-sized.
2. Guinea pigs almost ALWAYS need a friend (even if separated).
3. Adopt, don't breed or buy.
These are the BIG THREE.
So, if after quickly reading through the forum, you came to the conclusion that you did everything wrong, well, you did. If you want to take that personally, that is up to you. I have no control over that.
You read enough to make that "realization." Just because you did, doesn't mean the next person has. And honestly, not everyone is here with the best interests of their pets in mind. Many people are here for what's in the best interest of their pets as long as it doesn't inconvenience them or cost very much if anything at all.
A comment was made about putting pets above people. That's an exaggeration as well. We absolutely want happy pet owners along with well cared for pets. The two go hand-in-hand.
We won't be backing off of the big three from a tolerance point of view. And by tolerance, I mean, posts that advocate against those positions (aside from intro posts) are fair to be questioned and challenged --- AS POLITELY AS POSSIBLE.
2. Read the dates.
We tell people to search for threads. They are going to find OLDer threads. It's the OLDER threads that are more acerbic and could be interpreted as rude by some people. LOOK AT THE POST DATE before you judge how the community is TODAY compared to the past. We HAVE changed.
In fact, I think I'll come up with some way to highlight that this an older thread when I have some time.
3. Be what you want it to be.
Every person reading this and every person who posts CONTRIBUTES to this community--directly or indirectly.
As a poster, if you want more humor in posts, lead by example and be humorous. If you want more tolerance, reply to a post with tolerance. If you want more sympathy and empathy, reply with more sympathy and empathy.
Some people can't stand it when different people reply with the same info. However, maybe the way YOU say it, will be better received or understood by someone. That happens all the time. It would happen naturally if we were all standing around talking. Feel free to contribute. It's all good.
If someone replies in a way that you don't care for, feel free to reply with the same info and restate it.
"To Teresa's point ..."
"I think Teresa may have also meant ..."
"I'd probably say it like this ..."
"Good point, but if you think about it like this ..."
"I know Teresa said it, but I'd also like to say ..."
"I'd like to restate pretty much the same thing but differently ..."
Whatever. It's good to acknowledge that a point has already been made but you are putting your own spin on something.
There are creative ways to help other forum members (and me and the moderators) come across the way you want everyone to sound. Of course, within reason.
In conclusion
I think the other points about everyone being different and such have already been made.
All that said, we are never going to be the "fluffy ribbons and bows, anything goes" pet forum. Not going to happen. There are too many things to change in this world regarding animals.
But, this is still a FUN and COOL and informative place to be if you like guinea pigs. Please, please enjoy it and please lead by example.
The administration is very concerned and committed to making this a great place to be. If you have issues, please don't wait to voice them. Take the advice here and participate more or PM us with specifics that need addressing.
Thank you!