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So I wanted foster pigs...

Gigabyte

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BUT...

Today my boyfriend's sister called me about 3 kittens in need of bottle feeding. It's not concrete, but soon I might have kitties for a good 8 weeks or so, who will of course be spayed or neutered and adopted out to people I trust. I might keep one...which would be awesome.
Who knows what'll happen.

I still have mixed feelings. I prefer piggies because if they're full grown, you don't have to feed them every 2.5 hours. Sigh. But I'll take whoever is in need.

I still haven't gotten a home visit for guinea pig fostering yet, because of the snow and everything. I'm so afraid they will turn me down because my mother forced me to give my guinea pig to them years ago when I was maybe 13. Now I don't live with her for that and a few reasons, plus, at 19 you gotta move out eventually. But the little guy was way sick and mom wouldn't pay for treatment and I knew the only place he'd survive would be their guinea pig rescue.

Do you think they won't want me? I felt horrible about the whole thing, but what could I do? I tried, but it wasn't enough. I NEVER asked her to go out and buy a pig. She just came home with a guinea pig one day like she was giving me a candy bar after my previous one died. The pig had an abscess on his neck, his eyes and nose ran, and he looked miserable. My mom said "Petco vet said he was fine!" Uh...what? Doesn't look fine! Took him to Banfield and they said he had a chronic condition that would kill him without treatment. Mom refused to pay for "that rodent thing" and the next thing we knew, he was being surrendered to a kind foster lady in my area.

I feel horrible. I've tried to support the rescue and donate. I went down last week and saw him, he's 5 years old. And I felt horrible. I fed the pigs and held some of them. But I doubt they will choose me. If not, I guess I'll just donate money or something.

I really must be a horrible human being. :weepy:
 
Oh you are not a horrible person at ALL! You are so sweet for wanting to help out animals. What your mom did is NOT your fault!!! I hope things work out <3 I think kitties would be so fun!
 
Gigabyte, you're not a horrible human being, and it's neither productive nor good for your mental health to think things like that.

If someone else came to you and told you that story, would you think they were horrible? I doubt it. So why should it be horrible just because it's you? Your mother was the irresponsible pet person in that scenario.

I'm going out on a limb here, and am going to suggest that you need to work on developing a more positive self image of yourself. You've developed this "doom and gloom" scenario about the rescue without ever having heard from them about fostering. They may be happy to have you foster. But if they're not, maybe it's their problem -- maybe they can't see past the circumstances of a 13-year-old who had no say in what happened to her pet, to the young adult who's committed to foster care.

If you go through life assuming that everything is your fault, you're going to have more problems than you'll know what to do with. If that's a regular pattern with you, and I'm not saying that it is, then please consider discussing it with a good therapist. I have no way of knowing whether this is the way you approach everything in your life. I hope not, but if your post was representative of the way you respond to ambiguous situations, then please consider learning a more helpful, healthy way to deal with them. And good luck!
 
I wouldn't worry about something that happened when you were a kid. A reputable rescue isn't going to assume that a child was the one responsible for a pet, if anything your mother would have a hard time becoming a foster. Even that I find unlikely.

Go through with the process and as long as you have the demeanor, and space they are looking for, I'm sure you'll be accepted. Don't beat yourself up so much :)
 
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