Geranium
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Cavy Slave
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- Joined
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Nearly ten months ago I made the decision to euthanize my beloved, Tulip. I find myself regretting that decision to this day. I thought I would try writing about it to this community who has helped me many times before with advice and comfort. I know it's a depressing subject.
Here is the original thread on her illness ((broken link removed)) but to keep it short she was diagnosed with a tumor in her liver. She had been losing weight and showing signs of pain. The diagnosis happened right as I was making a big move an hour away from where we lived and from our vet. I blame myself for making such a big decision during that time of change. My emotions were wild and I feel like I failed to listen to myself and Tulip, and instead relied on other people to make the decision for me. While we were in the waiting room she turned around and seemed to be fighting for her life by trying to eat a carrot. I ignored all the signs because I couldn't handle the stress and the pain. I miss her and I feel so stupid for having let her go.
The worst part of it all is that I let her go in what I imagine was a terrible, frightening, and painful way. I moved on a Saturday and had her scheduled for euthanasia on Monday with the vet. I was incredibly emotional and decided on Sunday that I couldn't wait because I worried she was in too much pain. I think I was also selfishly motivated because if I went on Monday I would have to cancel work and class and drive farther. So I ended up taking her to an emergency vet on Sunday. It was unbearable and I couldn't keep myself together. I went into the place crying and could barely get words out and had all the dog and cat owners in the place staring at me and my little lump in a blanket. We waited for an hour in a private room even though we could still hear the dogs outside of the door. Then after waiting all that time someone came in and talked with me about the procedure and handed me the form and told me I wouldn't be allowed in the room with her. I asked them why and all I can remember is that they said something about how it's hard to find their heart and they don't want the owner to be uncomfortable. I let myself be blinded by my emotions and by my want for all the pain, mine and hers, to just be over with already. And I signed the form. And they came back and took her and I could barely say goodbye through my hyperventilation. And I waited for what seemed like forever and I found myself at the door trying to listen and eventually I heard her let out a squeal. And I waited some more and they handed her to me in a tiny rectangular box taped shut. After ridiculously going to clean the apartment I had just moved out of with my mom, then making a long drive home, I took her out to be with her cage-mate for a moment. She was stiff and she died with her eyes open. I laid her in the cage and Opal was too scared to recognize her or do anything. I took her out to the woods and dug the deepest hole I could manage and kissed her goodbye and buried her forever.
I worry that she wasn't actually gone when they stuffed her in that box and sealed it shut. I worry that she was incredibly frightened and in terrible pain in her last moments. I feel like I did her so wrong. I feel like I should have walked out of that door and never let it happen the moment they said I wasn't allowed in. I knew it was a red flag. I try to rationalize it and say that if I had walked out my mom who drove me would have been upset because she drove me out there and that she would think I'm being too emotional and weird about a guinea pig. I try to rationalize it and think that somehow she didn't go in pain and it was in her best interest to let her go before she felt the real pain of the tumor. I think about how I buried her in the woods and how she's at least at peace in the earth and will grow into something else. It still breaks my heart no matter what though that she went the way that she did and that I wasn't with her. I feel like I abandoned her. I wish more than anything I would have waited to take her in on Monday. Or even waited to make the decision at all.
She was only two years old. The days after she died I couldn't stop crying and it became such a tender subject I just pushed it out of my head. The past couple of months I've started thinking about her again. Looking at old pictures and videos of her has helped. But it's still such a terrible feeling, no matter how much I try to rationalize.
Have any of you gone through a similar situation? Have you found anything that helps?
Here is the original thread on her illness ((broken link removed)) but to keep it short she was diagnosed with a tumor in her liver. She had been losing weight and showing signs of pain. The diagnosis happened right as I was making a big move an hour away from where we lived and from our vet. I blame myself for making such a big decision during that time of change. My emotions were wild and I feel like I failed to listen to myself and Tulip, and instead relied on other people to make the decision for me. While we were in the waiting room she turned around and seemed to be fighting for her life by trying to eat a carrot. I ignored all the signs because I couldn't handle the stress and the pain. I miss her and I feel so stupid for having let her go.
The worst part of it all is that I let her go in what I imagine was a terrible, frightening, and painful way. I moved on a Saturday and had her scheduled for euthanasia on Monday with the vet. I was incredibly emotional and decided on Sunday that I couldn't wait because I worried she was in too much pain. I think I was also selfishly motivated because if I went on Monday I would have to cancel work and class and drive farther. So I ended up taking her to an emergency vet on Sunday. It was unbearable and I couldn't keep myself together. I went into the place crying and could barely get words out and had all the dog and cat owners in the place staring at me and my little lump in a blanket. We waited for an hour in a private room even though we could still hear the dogs outside of the door. Then after waiting all that time someone came in and talked with me about the procedure and handed me the form and told me I wouldn't be allowed in the room with her. I asked them why and all I can remember is that they said something about how it's hard to find their heart and they don't want the owner to be uncomfortable. I let myself be blinded by my emotions and by my want for all the pain, mine and hers, to just be over with already. And I signed the form. And they came back and took her and I could barely say goodbye through my hyperventilation. And I waited for what seemed like forever and I found myself at the door trying to listen and eventually I heard her let out a squeal. And I waited some more and they handed her to me in a tiny rectangular box taped shut. After ridiculously going to clean the apartment I had just moved out of with my mom, then making a long drive home, I took her out to be with her cage-mate for a moment. She was stiff and she died with her eyes open. I laid her in the cage and Opal was too scared to recognize her or do anything. I took her out to the woods and dug the deepest hole I could manage and kissed her goodbye and buried her forever.
I worry that she wasn't actually gone when they stuffed her in that box and sealed it shut. I worry that she was incredibly frightened and in terrible pain in her last moments. I feel like I did her so wrong. I feel like I should have walked out of that door and never let it happen the moment they said I wasn't allowed in. I knew it was a red flag. I try to rationalize it and say that if I had walked out my mom who drove me would have been upset because she drove me out there and that she would think I'm being too emotional and weird about a guinea pig. I try to rationalize it and think that somehow she didn't go in pain and it was in her best interest to let her go before she felt the real pain of the tumor. I think about how I buried her in the woods and how she's at least at peace in the earth and will grow into something else. It still breaks my heart no matter what though that she went the way that she did and that I wasn't with her. I feel like I abandoned her. I wish more than anything I would have waited to take her in on Monday. Or even waited to make the decision at all.
She was only two years old. The days after she died I couldn't stop crying and it became such a tender subject I just pushed it out of my head. The past couple of months I've started thinking about her again. Looking at old pictures and videos of her has helped. But it's still such a terrible feeling, no matter how much I try to rationalize.
Have any of you gone through a similar situation? Have you found anything that helps?