My Sister's New Boyfriend

[Bennalaya]

My sister has just recently started dating a guy and she's serious about him already. Bear in mind that my sister is a vet tech and has been a member of PETA for years. The guy she is seeing is a rodeo clown. Well, actually, he told us the more "politically correct" term is "bull fighter". Right now he does it on the weekends as a hobby, but is going to school to become a professional rodeo clown - excuse me, bull fighter - so that he can make a career out of this.

When he started dating my sister he said that any woman coming into his life must meet one requirement, she must understand that the rodeo is his first love and the most important thing in his life and he won't give it up until the day he dies. When I told her I don't approve of his life's love and ambition she shot back with, "well, I guess it's a good thing I don't date for you!"

She's a member of PETA. She's seen the videos and read the pamphlets and fact sheets about rodeo cruelty. She knows what it's about and what happens. The pain and fear thrust upon these animals to make them seem "dangerous".

I don't know how to handle this. I don't come from a family of animal haters. I don't come from a family of sport hunters or rodeo lovers or animal breeders. What am I supposed to say if he comes around and spends time with the family and starts talking about the rodeos?

[Deenanicole08]

Chances are your sister will end up breaking it off eventually. If she's dedicated to animals, and loves and cares about them and he talks about the bulls constantly, she'll get sick of it soon enough.

[SNAKE CHARMER]

This is a PETA site now we've had our disagreements and arguments but never did I think you guys where that bad someone tell me this isn't a PETA site. As for the boyfriend you can always just tamper with his equipment and a little accident happen or maybe she'll just break up with him chicks were never good with relationships and once she sees that shes not number one she'll just leave.

[dra&pigs]

This isn't a PETA website. It supports PETA, but it is run by a lady (a very nice one, I might add), who runs a guinea pig rescue in California and came up with the idea of C&C's. I don't see the problem with any of these posts...is it the rodeo thing? I don't think you need to cause a "little accident", but I think that, like Deenanicole said, if your sister really is dedicated to animals, she will soon get tired of hearing about bulls all the time and break up with him.

[AnimalHouse36]

Originally Posted by SNAKE CHARMER

This is a PETA site now we've had our disagreements and arguments but never did I think you guys where that bad someone tell me this isn't a PETA site. As for the boyfriend you can always just tamper with his equipment and a little accident happen or maybe she'll just break up with him chicks were never good with relationships and once she sees that shes not number one she'll just leave.

What is WITh this post? Telling her to hurt him? Saying girls only go for number one? Chicks were never good with relationships? What? Tell me, why would you post this?

This isn't a peta site this is a guinea pig site. Many people on here are involved in PETA and are animals activists but this sin't a PETA site.

Also, your posts are hard to read. I'm sorry but they look like one big sentence! I don't mean to act like a moderator but....

Bennayla: I agree with Deen. If she really loves animals she'll break it off with this guy.....eventualy.

[Ly&Pigs]

SC, have you ever stopped to read the blurb at the top of the kitchen forum? Part of it states:

This forum is PRO-ANIMAL WELFARE and animal welfare organizations, including: PETA, IDA and others. If you have criticisms or issues with any animal welfare organizations, be prepared to offer REAL alternatives or solutions. Bashing, baiting & trolling are not permitted.

PETA didn't create this site, but many of the members here stand for what PETA is all about.

As for the boyfriend you can always just tamper with his equipment and a little accident happen

That's just plain wrong. Hurting others intentionally can put you into jail.

[SNAKE CHARMER]

Sorry about the post I was real frantic because of the PETA I can't believe you guys support them. Well I don't know about you guys but my observations show chicks aren't the greatest at relation ships and the kitchen says if you can't stand the heat stay out so I thought my two cents would be ok(if it wasn't sorry for offending). So you guys know chicks that are good with relationships? I didn't mean kill him just embarrass him and he'll be too afraid to go back out there and with him being a changed person your sister might not like him anymore it sounds cruel but if your seriously bent.

[dra&pigs]

"Chicks"???!!! Please, I am a woman, a girl, a lady, not a chick. Last time I checked, chicks are baby chickens, not girls. You had better believe we (well, some of us) support PETA. I have for a while and I continue to. It's a wonderful organization. Actually, yes, I know "chicks", are good with relationships. I wouldn't be in a relationship right now unless I was decent...please stop critizing women, for whatever reason you do, you haven't met every girl in the world, so you can't make a fair judgement. Even embarrasing him in public would be wrong. While the guy may not be the one Bennayala's sister should go out with, does not mean she needs to hurt him in order for him to stay with her. If she doesn't end up liking him, then that should be it and she leaves. No hurting/embarrasing, ect., for her benefit.

[starshine123102]

Most of us are women (FYI), and no, most women are NOT bad at realtionships.

Maybe you've been unlucky, I can't say for sure, but from what it sounds like you wouldn't be too good in one yourself if you are suggesting that we embarass our significant other to get what we want out of them. Just because you don't necessairly agree with what your partner (or sisters's partner) does, does NOT mean that you intentionally insult them.

And as for the PETA thing, it's not the end of the world. I can't stand PETA either but I ignore that part of the forum and go on my merry way, as you should. To me, my pigs health and well being is way too important to let the fact that they support organization (yet don't push on you) get in the way of my enjoyment of the many other sections of this site.

[AnimalHouse36]

Originally Posted by SNAKE CHARMER

Sorry about the post I was real frantic because of the PETA I can't believe you guys support them.

And what is wrong with PETA? Sorry that you don't beleive in animals being treated right?

Just because you don't have good experiences with WOMEN ( NOT CHICKS) doesn't mean they're all bad. Would I be bad at relationships if I was in one right now? In fact most people on here are women so I wouldn't go offeneding us.

[SNAKE CHARMER]

I would tell you why I don't support PETA but you guys wouldn't believe me and it'd just start another arguement. As for being "unlucky" I don't fool with women(notice I didn't say chicks)but out of curiosity I have observed there natures. Well if you don't want to do things by force then you can always complain to your parents.

[Ly&Pigs]

Chicks belong to chickens. We are girls, ladies or women. Please refer to us as such.

You have some serious growing up to do. I understand many of your views are the way they are because of your very young age (and don't post it either because I already know how old you are, but the rest of the forum doesn't need to know). I'm also beginning to think you may benefit from some professional therapy if you think harming people to embarrass them is a good thing.

PETA bashing is not allowed on this forum. I'm also thinking maybe the kitchen isn't the place you need to post.

Originally Posted by AnimalHouse36

Also, your posts are hard to read. I'm sorry but they look like one big sentence! I don't mean to act like a moderator but....

Then don't act like a moderator. It's not the members' job to do the moderating.

[AnimalHouse36]

Originally Posted by SNAKE CHARMER

I would tell you why I don't support PETA but you guys wouldn't believe me and it'd just start another arguement. As for being "unlucky" I don't fool with women(notice I didn't say chicks)but out of curiosity I have observed there natures. Well if you don't want to do things by force then you can always complain to your parents.

I don't think her parents are going to force her to break up with him. If they do that's their own choice but I know I wouldn't.

The way you said you "observe" our nature makes it seem like we are some kind of freaky science lab project. We are people.

[auburnmare5]

SC- There is a big difference between chicks and women/girls/ladies. CHICKS ARE YOUBG CHICKENS!!! A woman/girl/lay is a human!
Although I am not a PETA member, (I do hope to eventually become one), I am sort of offended by the way you were talking about it in one of your posts.

[katiewilson]

Originally Posted by SNAKE CHARMER

Sorry about the post I was real frantic because of the PETA I can't believe you guys support them. Well I don't know about you guys but my observations show chicks aren't the greatest at relation ships and the kitchen says if you can't stand the heat stay out so I thought my two cents would be ok(if it wasn't sorry for offending). So you guys know chicks that are good with relationships? I didn't mean kill him just embarrass him and he'll be too afraid to go back out there and with him being a changed person your sister might not like him anymore it sounds cruel but if your seriously bent.

There is just so much wrong with this. Like your views on breeding and pet stores, one can only hope that a little more aging and maturing will bring you around on your disapproval of women. Um, for one, you'll come to find out some day that girls don't actually have cooties...

Bennalaya, don't sweat it regarding your sister's boyfriend. If you walk into the room already of the mind frame that you won't like anything that comes out of his mouth, it's going to definitely come across as such, and your sister might resent you for it. Meet him, be nice, and as necessary, engage him in friendly and spirited debates on animal rights. You probably won't be able to turn him against his "first love", but at the very least, he'll know where you stand and should respect your views accordingly. As previously mentioned, your sister will likely grow tired of his views on animals and rodeos. If not, then hey, he must really be a great guy for a PETA member to be willing to look past it. Just be there for her through the good times and, should they break up, the bad.

[dra&pigs]

Originally Posted by katiewilson

Um, for one, you'll come to find out some day that girls don't actually have cooties...

Love that line right there... Anyway, SC, I hope that eventually you'll grow up and realize what really matters in the world.