Anxiety

**Piglet** · #1 07-20-05, 05:06 pm

Does anyone suffer from anxiety on here?

**StrangeKat** · #2 07-20-05, 06:36 pm

I do. Used to be social anxiety, but now it's mostly situational (drving in traffic, being alone, big changes, etc.). It's way better then it used to be, but still no fun.

**Ly&Pigs** · #3 07-20-05, 11:29 pm

Yes, along with some depression disorders.

**Slap Maxwell** · #4 07-21-05, 12:13 am

Sorry I didn't get back to your PM Piglet, your box was full.

I suffered from a severe anxiety disorder for years. I have bi-polar disorder and traits of borderline personality disorder. I was suicidal and harming myself physically for a very long time.

**Ly&Pigs** · #5 07-21-05, 01:13 am

I was diagnosed with borderline personality disorder.

**Myspoiltpiggies** · #6 07-21-05, 01:33 am

I *think* I do. But my mum says I don't.

**Piglet** · #7 07-21-05, 08:23 am

It's ok Slap! I cleaned it out. Sorry to hear about your past

Is there any sort of medication you can be put onto?

**Zeander** · #8 07-21-05, 11:11 am

I used to have a big problem with social anxiety. I owe it to God for getting me through it. Now I look back and it's hard to believe the way I used to be. I'm still a shy person, but I don't get anxious like I used to. I also think that just going through the teenage years was part of the problem.

**cavy-cool-crazy** · #9 07-21-05, 11:13 am

I had severe anxiety when it came to going into schools which then progressed to Agoraphobia (fear of being in open spaces). I have a phobia about vomiting (Emetophobia), so whenever I feel nauseous I start to panic.
I had to take Anti-Emetics and Diazepam for a while until I could control my panic attacks (which mostly involved self-harm), but now I don't need any medication.
I still get anxious, but nothing on the scale I used to.

**Slap Maxwell** · #10 07-21-05, 11:47 am

I am on a boatload of meds, but the ones that help me with anxiety are Geodon and Seroquel. I have also had luck with Risperadal.

**StrangeKat** · #11 07-21-05, 01:25 pm

I was on meds, but I stopped taking them 7 months ago. I prefer to deal with therapy, not drugs.

**Myspoiltpiggies** · #12 07-21-05, 02:10 pm

Quote:

Originally Posted by Zeander

I used to have a big problem with social anxiety. I owe it to God for getting me through it. Now I look back and it's hard to believe the way I used to be. I'm still a shy person, but I don't get anxious like I used to. I also think that just going through the teenage years was part of the problem.

I didn't know this was such a common problem. I think I have Social Anxiety. I've always been known as *shy* but it's much worse than that. Even with people I have known for years or all my life, I find it difficult to talk to them. I am always so uncomfortable & tense around other people :-( I see someone about it every week.

**Piglet** · #13 07-21-05, 02:33 pm

When I am around my friends or at school I am 100% fine. I love going to school and talking to class mates/teachers/whoever! I'm fine with close family too. It's just that I seem to worry about a lot of things and when an event is coming up i.e. a wedding, I'll begin to get nervous and I won't stop thinking about it.

I find it difficult to talk openly about my feelings with my family. My mum is nice but she won't take me seriously. She'll say something like "well, it didn't happen to me so you have no problem" or some crap like that.

I don't think I have a major problem, but my worrying has become apparent to me in the last year or so. It's my thinking that makes me fearful, nothing else.

**A4PigHome** · #14 07-22-05, 09:42 am

Piglet, sorry to hear you have anxiety concerns. If you don't feel talking to your family will do the trick, perhaps talking to a professional would help.

I am taking medicine for depression and anxiety. I use to be a terrible worrier, to the point where I stressed myself out and often was sick. I didn't realize I had a problem though until after my first child was born. I developed postpartum and could not bond fully with him. I eventually pushed away from him and my husband. After a near divorce and thoughts of suicide, I got help.

Now I have 2 children and a happy marriage and life. I still have low periods, but my medicine helps me to get through them, as does my husband. I don't worry nearly as much either, which is great!!!

One thing I have come to realize over the last few years is just how common depression and anxiety are. This thread proves it again. It is not something to be ashamed of, but it is something you can treat, at least for the most part and in most cases. The thing is realizing you have a problem...well, and also not being afraid to ask for help.

Piglet, I hope you don't have anxiety problems, but if you do, be sure to get the help you need to make your life better. I waited much too long to get help.

**redangel1300** · #15 07-22-05, 09:57 am

I have always had a little problem with anxiety when I was in High School such as when I would have a big test or so on. I would hypervenalate and get sick to my stomach. It got much worse after I had my 1st son. I finally broke down and started taking medication. I have my days but overall I do feel better. Now it is more the fear of having a panic attack than the actual attack itself. It makes it ruffer when my family thinks that I should just overcome it and move on. My mother is always telling me that is I would push myself I would get through everything and would be fine. I hate the way no one seems to understand it. It always help to hear of others who share in my struggle.

**twofinepigs** · #16 07-22-05, 10:18 am

I have a child that has much the same thing, Piglet, I think. She's bright, does well in school, has activities and interests, and is fine with friends and family. But she worries terribly about upcoming events, even ones she is looking forward to. In fact, she worries enough that without some "pushing", she wouldn't do anything at all.

We did put her into therapy, and I would really recommend it. As a result of that (we didn't choose to go with meds because she is only twelve, but that is an option for some people and some situations) we handle events a little differently. She really needs a LOT of information and prep time. You can't spring things on her! Even a school field trip - she NEEDS all the details. What kind of bus? Who will she sit with? What time will they have lunch? Where will she put her backpack? When we plan family events, I get her in on it early so she can develop all her questions and think through all the possibilities. The more information she has, the more what-ifs she can go through, the more comfortable she is.

It does none of us any good at all to say, "Don't worry about it." She DOES worry about it, and if we don't respect that, she just worries silently - no good!

But it's also true that we have to push her, to say "You ARE going. Now, what do we need to do to make that easier?"

Because we respect that she DOES worry, and try to help her get what she needs, she is learning about her own personality type and learning to ask questions and get the information she needs to be comfortable. In short, learning to take care of herself, instead of worrying about the worrying. And each time she gets through an event and enjoys herself, she has something else to add to the "see, it worked out" bucket.

Best wishes. Anxiety is no fun. Therapy can help you find ways to take care of yourself and lessen the effects.

**Piglet** · #17 07-22-05, 11:34 am

Aww, thank you everyone for all the posts, it does help a lot.

Twofinepigs, in a way I am similar to your daughter. I will worry about events that I am sort of looking forward to. Take my prom for an example - Part of me was SO excited but then the other half of me was full of dread. I don't need "pushing" from my family though. I will go out to any event, i.e. a wedding, a school trip without thinking twice but then the days leading up to it will be full of worry. I really don't know what I worry about? What is there that makes me feel so scared?

I tend to worry silently though because who am I supposed to tell? If I tell my family they'll just think I'm being stupid and am making a mountain out of a mole hill (he he, I love that saying).

I really am just going to try and relax about upcoming events. I am going to a wedding tomorrow and have been stressing about that, but I'm going to focus on the positive aspects (like wearing my new clothes! :P).

Another thing I have remembered - if my friends and I make plans to go out, I'm always scared to tell my mum. Why? I don't know! Obviously, she's not going to say no, but I'm always worried about telling her. That's so pathetic isn't it? I know that she's not going to stop me going out.

I don't get panic attacks and I don't hyperventilate. I just sometimes get this sick feeling in my stomach, or just cry!

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